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Deseret News book review

I was so excited to see this book review of The Two-Minute Marriage Project in the Deseret News this week:

THE TWO-MINUTE MARRIAGE PROJECT: Simple Secrets for Staying in Love,” by Heidi Poelman, Familius, $14.95, 142 pages (nf)

“The Two-Minute Marriage Project: Simple Secrets for Staying in Love” by Utahn Heidi Poelman is a refreshingly relatable guide to marriage maintenance for newlyweds and longtime spouses alike, worthy of space on any couple’s bookshelf.

Tackling topics like learning to understand a spouse’s perspective, creating and maintaining intimacy and handling conflict, Poelman discusses various facets of a day-to-day marriage relationship, offering numerous suggestions on small, everyday actions to nourish and support a lasting partnership. Each chapter, which addresses couples in every stage of marriage, ends with a summary list of “action steps” each spouse can complete to strengthen their relationship — each of which can be done in two minutes or less.

While many authors of classic marriage self-help books are scholars and marriage and family therapists, Poelman is neither. Rather, she is a wife, mother and Utahn who has “been in the trenches” and understands what the everyday life of marriage is like. Whereas other guides can feel stuffy or more theoretical than practical, “The Two-Minute Marriage Project” is a simple read that makes sense, is entertaining and is easy to apply.

What she lacks in professional expertise, Poelman more than makes up for in relatability; her engaging, self-deprecating style evokes a type of trust that is hard to feel for academics. Utilizing many of her own marital experiences to demonstrate the principles she discusses as well as “what not to do” scenarios, Poelman makes it easy to understand and apply her suggested action steps.

Aside from the observations she has made about tried-and-tested marriage maintenance ideas among family and friends, Poelman references plenty of academic studies and marriage therapists to create a balanced list of citations.

Thanks to Poelman’s practical applications and prosaic writing style, “The Two-Minute Marriage Project” is an enjoyable and easily applicable marriage maintenance guide.

Jennifer Ball is a freelance journalist out of Los Angeles specializing in food criticism and LDS media.